Happy Saturday All :) I figure I would share some thoughts about online dating as i've done a crap ton of it so I can definitely say i'm at expert level. I would say that dating for me is tough, I mean frequency and amount of dates isn't quite an issue but the type of person I attract or am attracted to never turn out to be who I want them to be or vice versa. It's a weird dynamic.
I hate to say this but it always seems like everyone is perfect aside from one thing. I'm sure the same could also be said about me as well. I think this is why i'm so selective in my interactions, as in if i feel anything which even signifies to me you are just going on a date with me just to go on a date with me I try to peace out ASAP. I might be sabotaging myself because not everyone is as forward with their emotions as I am, but it's definitely also a defense mechanism. I'm not going to wait around to see if someone likes me, if they don't seem too, statistics are they don't.
I also find that there is also this phenomenon of always thinking you can do better. My thought process goes like this "he's sweet to me, he's kind, he likes me, i like him, but i'm also talking to this other guy." There is so much crap in this thought process. I feel like the stubborn powerful woman side of me is always thinking i'll find better, in essence I'm looking for some magical unicorn. I need to realize that I am not a magical unicorn, so finding a magical unicorn is going to be a tough endeavor. Anyway, good luck swiping, if it hasn't worked for you, their are alot of fish in the sea but if you find one that you enjoy, stop swiping (now to follow my own wisdom).

<3Steph
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